D'varim....Dancing At Weddings

There is something that has been bothering me for a long time, and it came up again last week at a wedding. Has anyone been to weddings that the chosen's friends totally take over the dancing leaving anyone not willing to push and shove out of the picture?? Yes it is a great mitzvah to be mesameach chosen v'kallah but I believe they are causing what might be a great chillul hashem. Let me explain -1. First dance I believe should be for Family and Rabbanim. How many times have you seen someone trying to steer an elderly gentlemen into the middle to dance with his grandson (ex:) and the guy getting knocked around or worse by the multitude of people oblivious to what is going on around them. How many times do close family members not have a chance to dance because they don't want to risk life and limb.I definitely think the friends should dance but in a civilized manner in a circle with everyone else.Let them have the second dance! 2. Many times due to the throngs that push and shove their way closer and closer to the chosen - no one ends up dancing at all except the chosen himself, it is just too crowded. Look around at the next wedding you will notice lots of the dance floor is not even used!! 3. This I believe is a serious problem but you might not find this at every wedding. I noticed this at the wedding last week - many times there are relatives of the chosen or kallah who are not your run of the mill yeshivish/right wing/ ect.(take your pick ), they might feel slightly intimidated by 20-30 yeshiva guys running around pushing and shoving. They usually stay to the side and don't participate at all. Unless the chosen notices them and can make his way over. I find it hard to believe that they come away thinking good things about yeshiva guys. I have yet to see a guy trying to be friendly and trying to include these people in the simcha. I believe as yeshiva guys they should exemplify middos and should always be on best behavior. I think that if someone chooses to sit and learn, 'kol hakavod' but they should act like bnei torah and people should say about them "Ashrei Ovev...v'Rabo shlomdo Torah'